We often say that sex disappears after marriage. A loss of sexual activity can happen to anyone. A natural response you may have heard may sound like “No sex? Meh… It happens to everyone after marriage”. Everything is in your hands and just as you work out your wedding routine, you have control over your sexual life. With just a bit of effort, you can get that spark of passion that starts fading away.
SEXercise More!
Sex quality depends on your body shape and overall health. No one wants to have sex when they feel fatigue or have back pain, or can hardly take themselves to the kitchen. If you want to keep your sex drive high, you should keep fit. Physical exercises will boost your energy. Stretching is ideal before trying new positions. Jogging will help you control your breath. Work-out with your partner – the very sight of your sweaty bodies and stretchy pants will raise the heat, and keep your training going in the bedroom.
Ever Sexted?
Yes, you don’t have to be a teen to sext. Though you may think it’s a silly thing to do, statistics shows that almost one-third of married people have sent sexy messages or emails. Why don’t you try it with your significant other? Your hubby will be pleasantly surprised if you send a risky photo of you followed by an intriguing message. However, don’t cross the line in sexting. Do not sext while at work as it can put you or your spouse in an awkward situation. Do not cross the boundary – you know each other’s preferences and morals. Finally, do not save your sexts…just in case.

Be Initiative
Usually, married couples do not have sex – or have sex rarely when each of the partners is waiting for the other one to start. Each day something can be an excuse – bad weather, bad feelings, hard day at work, too late, friends invited for dinner… Remember that 42% of married men want their partner to initiate more. So you don’t have to be shy or hesitant. Initiate sex. Let your husband know he is hot and you want him in the spur of the moment. That feeling turns them on more than anything else.
Talk Sex with Each Other
Usually, you discuss sex when you start dating and want to know more about your partner. After you are married, you may think you know each other well enough, and there is nothing to talk about. Wrong! There is always something to say! Your partner may want to try something new. You may have been too embarrassed to talk about something previously, but now as you get closer, you may discuss taboos. Things change, and it’s good to discuss sex with your spouse to be sure you get the most of it and you are both satisfied. If you don’t know how to start a conversation try some ice-breakers like writing your questions on pieces of paper and answering them one by one. ‘Would You Rather’ is another one to play when you’re learning about intimate preferences.

Dress up for Sex
Do you still sleep in pajamas? PJs are usually sweet and cute – anything but sexy. Your husband does not see your femininity if you are dressed in cotton onesies. Want to have great sex? Forget about PJs. Leave them for PJ parties with friends. Try to sleep naked and feel each other’s bodies. Try a silky nightgown or lingerie. See what works better for you and what turns him on.
Sexperiment
To make your sex better, you should not be afraid of sexperiments. Not everything will work for you, but you will make your sexual life more various and full of excitement. Try to role play so that you can forget that you’ve been married for years and get excited with your new selves. Experiment with positions and locations. Watch erotic videos together to get some ideas for positions. Also, don’t forget the good old quickies. Men are usually turned on by the element of spontaneity. Quick sex in unpredictable spots? Sounds like an adventure!

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You may think ‘Celibacy before marriage? Come on, no one believes in that today’. And you will be wrong. Though it may sound old-fashioned but there are more and more people who decide to save sex for marriage. Even celebrities, who don’t usually lead such a puritanical lifestyle, decide to say ‘No’ to sex before marriage. Whatever their reasons are, these celebs publicly promised to be celibate before they meet their Mr/Mrs Right.

1. Adriana Lima ‘Sex is for after marriage’

Whenever you think about celibate celebrities, the first person who comes to mind is Adriana Lima. Maybe it’s just too hard to believe that Victoria Secret Angel decided to wait before marriage…Anyway, that’s true. The reason for the decision was first of all based on Adriana’s strict religious views – the Brazilian model is a strict Catholic. However, judging from Adriana’s interviews on sex and virginity, it’s also a matter of respect for her: ‘Sex is for after marriage… [Men] have to respect that this is my choice. If there’s no respect, that means they don’t want me.

2. Lady Gaga ‘It’s OK not to have sex’

Lady Gaga and her scandalous image contrasts sharply with her marriage values and views on celibacy. So her fans were shocked to hear about her attitude to sex back in 2010 ‘I’m single right now and I’ve chosen to be single because I don’t have the time to get to know anybody. So it’s OK not to have sex, it’s OK to get to know people. I’m celibate, celibacy’s fine.’ It didn’t last long though. In 2011 she admitted on ‘getting laid’, so celibacy was the matter of that single Lady Gaga’s period of life. However, her “don’t have sex” voice was heard by thousands of fans and might have influenced their views.

3. Lenny Kravitz ‘I’m going to do it with my wife’

It’s time to get a man into this list and Lenny Kravitz is a good choice. This macho man remained celibate for 4 years and explained it this way: ‘I think sex and intimacy and all that is very important. It’s just that I’m going to do it with my wife. And not everybody else.’ Good for you, Lenny!

4. Taylor Lautner ‘Waiting for the right girl’

World’s Sexiest Man (according to People magazine) is ready to remain celibate until he finds ‘the right girl’. Honestly, there are doubts if the Twilight star is still a virgin or not. But we should hope that the right girl will not keep Taylor waiting for too long.

5. Jessica Simpson ‘Virginity can be cool and sexy’

This blonde with the radiant smile got her purity ring from her father when she was 12 and kept her promise till marriage. She used to say “My virginity is something I stand strong in.” It worked well for her image of “the girl next door”, who apart from being celibate is also a true Christian and doesn’t drink or smoke. In 2002 she married Nick Lacey who totally supported her celibacy: “It’s not always easy,” he said. “But I do respect it. Virginity can be cool and sexy.”

6. Hilary Duff ‘Everybody has slept with each other’

Hilary Duff had specific reasons to keep celibacy before marrying Mike Comrie. She wanted to stand out. In 2006 she stated that everyone was talking about sex and she had no feeling that it was something special for them. “It just seems like everybody has slept with each other – you know what I mean?” So Hilary Duff waited for her special one, and, hopefully, she didn’t regret her decision.

7. Lisa Kudrow ‘I’m saving myself’

Lisa Kudrow, the quirky hippie girl from Friends in real life is quite reasonable and somewhat conservative. She remained celibate until she was 32 years old (!), when she married Michael Stern, her current husband. Lisa was not afraid to admit that she was afraid of sexuality: I don’t know if you’d characterize me as uptight, but I understood what it is to be so afraid of sex, of your sexuality…” However, that main reason for maintaining her celibacy was the fact that she wanted to be a decent wife for her husband. “I have to make myself worthy of the kind of man I had in mind.”

8. Mariah Carey ‘It’s just me, and my feelings.’

Mariah Carie was not a virgin when she met Nick Cannon but she was sure he was the one. So they decided to wait to make that moment special. She said: “We both have similar beliefs, and I just thought that it would be so much more special if we waited until after we were married. And it was, and it still is.” The couple separated in 2014, though.

9. Jordin Sparks ‘It just made perfect sense’

Jordin Sparks was another hot musician who took a vow of celibacy and keeps her word. She is said to still hold her V-card and traveling with grandma to keep her from temptation. No matter if that’s true or not, Jordin stated that she follows her parent’s example: “My parents gave me a purity ring and talked to me about waiting until marriage. It wasn’t forced, it just made perfect sense.”

10.Terrence Howard ‘I don’t believe in premarital sex’

An American actor who was married 4 times doesn’t believe in premarital sex? Weird, but that’s what he says. “If a relationship is built on sexuality, it won’t last long.” Terrence believes that sex causes responsibility, and as long as you don’t have sex you can have as many relationships as you want. It enabled me to date three or four women at the same time, because as long as I wasn’t having sex with them, I could always just walk away.

11. LeeLee Sobieski ‘My virginity was the gift’

An attractive and highly intelligent star, LeeLee lost her virginity with her husband at the age of 26. She remained firm about celibacy before marriage and she had her reasons: ‘It wasn’t for any religious reasons or anything like that, but simply because, to me, my virginity was the most precious gift that I could ever give to a man, and I wanted to be sure I was giving it to the right man.’ Obviously, her husband is a lucky man.

12. Julianne Hough ‘It will strengthen the relationship’

Julianne Hough, the judge of dancing show Dancing With the Stars , is another good girl from Hollywood. She doesn’t drink and smoke and is waiting until marriage. Her choice is based not on religious beliefs, but rather on her own views on relationships; She says: “If you’re just with one person, it’s only for one good reason, and [waiting to have sex] will strengthen that relationship.”

13. Kevin Jonas ‘Sex was not worth the wait’

One of Jonas Brothers, that sweet guy Kevin was actually strict and firm when it came to the celibacy question. He had a purity ring on his finger till 2007, when he married Danielle Deleasa. Probably, Kevin waited too long, and he is one of those who regret his celibacy decision: “Sex was not worth the wait. After we did it, I was kind of like, that’s it?”

14. Colin Farrell ‘I’m a good boy these days’

It’s hard to believe that this bad boy can be celibate…at all. However, after a hard break up, the actor swore off women in 2009. He never proclaimed celibacy as his belief or lifestyle, however in 2015 Colin admits he has not dated for, ooh, four years now. It’s just not happening, what with the work, the kids and my life. Whatever his reasons are, Colin refuses the image of a womanizer.

15. Linsday Lohan ‘Giving up sex to clear her head.’

In 2015 the scandalous redhead decided to join the list of celibate celebrities. The sources say she wants to focus on a healthier life and a pause in dating is a part of the plan. ‘She wants to have an emotional detox.’ Whatever are the reasons, the 28 year old star probably needs some changes to settle down. Will her celibacy last? Time will show.

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The football field was lit up by a pathway of candles, leading the way to a picnic set up underneath the goalpost. There were two chairs, a table, a dozen roses, a guitar, yummy food, and most importantly . . . him. The 21-year-old boy of my dreams was standing there. I couldn’t help but smile from ear to ear!

After dinner he sang our song and played his guitar. I cried like a little baby! It was our first official date since he had been gone for two years out of the country! We did it! We survived our two years of being apart, and he was now sitting in front of me — in real life! No more letters. No more long-distance phone calls on Mother’s Day and Christmas. We were finally together — and I wasn’t letting him go!

Our waitresses (aka our little sisters) brought out dessert and on the platter, there it was. A small black box with something so special inside . . . yep! It was THE ring. He got down on one knee and asked if I would be his best friend forever, and I obviously said yes! It was the happiest day of my life, thus far. I was getting married!

Leading up to the wedding day was so exciting! Plans, plans, and more plans — it felt like it ruled my life. But so much attention was set on the wedding day that one night we decided we needed to talk about what was most important: the MARRIAGE.

After all is said and done, the wedding colors will fade, the flowers will die, and the reception will end. But what is left? Of course . . . the bride and groom — and a life to live!

Today I have compiled a list of 30 TRUTHS ABOUT MARRIAGE. Married life is the real deal! And even though it is mostly fun and great, sometimes it is hard and a bit challenging. If you are getting ready to marry the man of your dreams, here is a little heads-up for what you are in for. And if you are married, I am sure you can relate.

1. YOU ARE OFFICIALLY A TEAM: You may not always see eye to eye, but you are in it together! Through thick and thin.

2. YOU SHOULD NEVER STOP DATING: A few ways on how to date your husband can be found here.

3. THERE WILL BE DAYS, WEEKS, MONTHS, EVEN YEARS THAT ARE HARD: It oftentimes seems that when it rains, it pours. You may have a day that is bad. But sometimes you may have a year that is bad. Stick through it, because things will get better.

4. SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO GO TO BED ANGRY: Many people will tell you as marriage advice to never go to bed angry, but you will learn quickly that sometimes you have to just go to bed and start all over in the morning.

5. YOU HAVE GOT TO BE TOUGH: Be sensitive to your spouse. Be sensitive to yourself. But be tough when hard days come.

6. MARRIAGE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PROMISE YOU WILL EVER MAKE: Marriage is a commitment. The biggest, craziest, most rewarding commitment.

7. YOU WILL PROBABLY NOT LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT HIM: “I just love EVERYTHING about him!” Every newlywed has said it. I am SO guilty. But you will probably have moments when you realize something about him really irritates you! And that is OK and completely normal. Nobody is perfect — neither of you are. None of us are.

8. BUTTERFLIES ARE A GOOD THING: Even after many, many years, you might get nervous when you see him or butterflies in your tummy. That’s just because you are in love.

9. 80 PERCENT OF SUCCESS IS JUST SHOWING UP: A lot of times, you just have to BE THERE. It’s not about going out every night anymore. It’s not about how many friends you have. Sometimes in marriage, you just have to be home. Just watch a movie. Bring home ice cream or his favorite treats. Just be together.

10. YOU WILL FIGHT OVER THE STRANGEST THINGS YOU THOUGHT WOULD NEVER BE AN ISSUE: Which way the toilet paper rolls? How to squeeze the toothpaste? Which way to put the dishes in the dishwasher? Where you put your shoes when you walk in? How you leave the door open when you pee? Why he chews so loud? The problems are real!

11. IT’S OK TO JUST GO TO SLEEP SOMETIMES: Sometimes you might be too tired to cuddle, love, or even talk. Go to sleep — it’s better than falling asleep in the middle of a conversation. (This may or may not have really happened in our marriage several times! Oh heavens.)

12. SOMETIMES YOU JUST HAVE TO CELEBRATE: Get a babysitter and go out! Babies can bring a lot of changes (read more here), so make sure you still have time for just the two of you. Go on a date! Go on a getaway trip! Have fun! Celebrate your marriage!

13. YOU MIGHT NOT HAVE THAT MANY FRIENDS: The struggle is real. One night you will look at each other and say, “We need friends!” Couple friends are out there — check out 10 couples EVERY couple knows here.

14. WORDS AND FEELINGS ARE REAL: Girls are sensitive and dramatic; it’s fact. But you will see that men have feelings, too. And sometimes they need to hear a few things from this list.

15. ALL WITHIN 30 MINUTES YOU WILL FEEL HAPPY, SAD, STRESSED, ANGRY, AND ABSOLUTELY IN LOVE: Sounds confusing, but once you’re in it, you just get it.

16. YOU WILL MAKE MEMORIES WITH HIM THAT CAN NEVER BE REPLACED: Your honeymoon. The birth of your babies. Those are special moments that only you and him will EVER have.

17. YOU WILL HAVE LISTS OF INSIDE JOKES TOGETHER: Those jokes that only the two of you understand and think are funny. Those jokes that you just “had to be there” to get.

18. MARRIAGE IS A BIG DEAL: It is the real deal!

19. SOMETIMES HE JUST WON’T UNDERSTAND YOU: And in this case you can share with him this article on how to think like your wife thinks.

20. BUT THEN SOMETIMES HE IS THE ONLY PERSON ON EARTH THAT ACTUALLY DOES UNDERSTAND YOU: And in this case you will look at him and remember exactly why you fell in love with him. He just GETS you.

21. SOMETIMES YOU WILL DO THINGS YOU NEVER THOUGHT YOU WOULD DO: Like play fantasy football and then blog about it?! Or go to the gym for date night?! Or eat Chipotle every Friday night because it’s his favorite!?

22. YOU MAY HAVE TO TELL HIM EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED: Sometimes you will notice your man can’t read your mind like you want him to. But here is a list of things you can share with him that you need from him, just so he knows!

23. YOU CAN NEVER SAY “I LOVE YOU” ENOUGH: Say it fast. Say it slow. Say it creatively. Say it in passing. You can never say it enough.

24. SOMETIMES YOU MAY NEED TO ADD A LITTLE SPICE: If you feel like one (or both) of you is getting bored (which will probably happen), it is time to spice it up!

25. IT’S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU: You may want it to be all about you (we are girls . . . do you blame us?!) — but sometimes he needs some love too!

26. IT IS WORTH IT: 100 percent.

27. YOU WILL FEEL A JOY YOU HAVE NEVER FELT BEFORE: You will LOVE waking up every morning, knowing that you get to spend another day with the man of your dreams!

28. SOMETIMES YOU MIGHT BE THE ONLY ONE THAT THINKS HE IS FUNNY: Don’t be shy; laugh at his jokes. Tell the world you love him! Be proud of who he is.

29. HE WILL DRIVE YOU NUTS: He really will — and if your man doesn’t sometimes drive you nuts, then you are a saint!

30. YOU WILL OFTEN WONDER HOW YOU EVER LIVED WITHOUT HIM: But no matter how many times he drives you bonkers, you will always wonder how you ever lived without him!

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