Feel as though you’ve explored the world of lingerie and different babydoll sets? If you’ve never used toys with your partner before, it can be hard to know where to start. There are so many sex toys online and it can be overwhelming. Introducing toys into intimate time with your partner can also be uncomfortable. There’s still a taboo around toys for a lot of people and it can even trigger feelings of insecurity for some.
These are small barriers though when compared to the huge amount of pleasure and new experiences that can be unlocked through the use of sex toys. Here’s my guide to the best toys for couples, whether you’re an absolute beginner or you’re looking for something new.
No matter how skilled your partner is with their natural resources, the sensation of a vibrator is unmatched. A vibrating toy is the perfect place to start when it comes to toys for couples, but the amount of different vibrators means that the more experienced may also be able to find something new in this area.
For an easy to use and versatile vibrator, I would recommend a wand like the Wanachi Body Recharger Wand by PipeDream. The wand is simple to use and can be used to stimulate any part of the body. It’s perfect for use during foreplay and the main event, especially for women looking to add a little more clitoral stimulation to penetrative sex.
Another type of toy that can add some good vibrations to penetrative sex are vibrating cock rings, like the Shots Rabbit Vibrating Cockring by Shots Toys. The cock ring squeezes his cock at the base, allowing him to achieve even harder erections than normal and increasing his sensitivity. The vibrating ears can provide hands free clitoral stimulation for her. It’s a perfect beginner’s toy.
For foreplay and a little something different, I recommend a remote control vibrator like the Love to Love Remote Control Egg. If you want to set the mood long before you even get to the bedroom, and you’re willing to try a little public play, then this is the perfect toy for you. The vibrator can be put in place and secretly controlled by your partner whether it’s at dinner or in the cab home.
Just For Him
So many toys focus on female pleasure and it can be easy to feel like men are being left out. Over recent years the adult toy market has been correcting this and there are more and more toys for him available all the time.
For a man new to using toys, a stroker is a great way to introduce toys into your foreplay. The Apollo Premium Dual Stroker Masturbator by California Exotic is a great choice when it comes to strokers. Just add a little lube and slipp the toy over your partner’s cock for some foreplay that will add new sensations compared to stimulation with a hand or a mouth. This toy is even reversible so has two texture options to choose from.
Though there is still a taboo around anal play for many straight men, more and more people are embracing it for the incredible source of pleasure it can be. If you’re looking to get started and see the kind of pleasure that can be unlocked by bringing your prostate into things, then a great place to start is a toy designed specifically for the job like the Vibrating Prostate Stimulator by PipeDream. Other than that, all you need is a little lube and an open mind.
When it comes to broadening your horizons in the bedroom, many couples want to try something a little bit kinky. For those of us uninitiated into the world of kink, this can be intimidating, but it’s a very exciting place to be with lots out there for you to experience and discover.
The B in BDSM stands for bondage, and that’s a common place to start when it comes to kink. Being restrained during sex is a simple thing, but it can be thrilling and add an element to sex that heightens everything. A bondage kit is a great way to get started. Something like this SportSheets Beginners Bondage Fantasy that comes with wrist and ankle cuffs as well as a blind fold, would be an easy to use and comfortable place to start. If you’re looking for something that’s even more quick and easy to use then bondage tape is a fantastic option.
For those who already have a little experience in BDSM, I would suggest taking the opportunity to level up your impact play. Spanking can be a lot of fun and, if you enjoy it, then I would suggest getting some tools that can add variety to the sensations achieved. A flog like the Rough Leather Handle Suede Flogger by Rouge Garments is a great example of a toy that can add new sensations. The flog is a versatile toy that can create several different sensations depending on how you use it.
If you’re looking to sample a few different toys, to try as much as possible, then sex toy kits could be a great option for you. Maybe you don’t know what you’re into yet, or maybe you think you’re going to be into everything. Either way, they can be a great option for those less decisive and ready to experiment.
The First Together Sexperince Complete Starter kit is the obvious choice for a couple looking to experience toys together. It includes toys for him and for her, perfect for play as a couple.
If you’re looking to bring a little kink into things, then I would recommend the Amazing Pleasure Sex Toy Kit by Toy Joy. This kit also includes toys for him and her, along with some extras for bondage play.